Really Black Man???

Race is not a random topic anymore. However, it is still tough to speak about. For those of us who are dealing with race on a constant basis…everyday of our lives, the subject is far removed from other’s realities. We live it. Everyday.

Especially, black women.

Black women have been ultimately disrespected since the beginning of time. We were only looked upon as being sex slaves for our white masters, baby carriers, baby sitters, or just needed for everyone’s needs…except our own. Needless to say, we, as black women have been taunted and hurt by media images and caricatures of who we are. But this topic is on to something else.

If you have been hiding under rock, you will not know who Tomi Lahren, a 24-year-old conservative talking head. Lahren often defends her positions using ad hominem pomposity, claiming real issues are symptoms of some despicable leftist agenda (really?). She is entitled to her Opinion-I respect that. What I do not respect is she’s complicit in media edifices that deliberately ignore how OUR system’s been built to exclude minorities (I guess all minorities are asking to be excluded. *sarcasm*). Where does this conversation lead to? Well, I will tell you.

Last week, Trevor Noah invited Blaze host Tomi Lahren to the Daily Show to interview her( he vigorously deconstructed the rhetoric she’s built her career off of). However, he sent her cupcakes afterwards (WTH?). I have never seen anyone send a black woman cupcakes for spitting her knowledge or lack thereof. I take it we are rewarding racist now?


And then, this happened…

Daria Wright-Charlemagne

So, let me get this straight-you do not know a black or Hispanic “woke” woman that uses social media (and other outlets) as their platform to bring about a new voice? Or speak against things that are contractually altered against minorities? We, as black women, do not use rhetoric to discredit another race or demean another human being. We are only looking to make our voices heard…not spout racist bullshit! Look Charla-whatever, you call yourself, because a God you are not-

How can you praise Tomi, this controversial commentator (even though she is something else but I won’t call names) while instantaneously ignoring—and expunging—the efforts of Black women who continue to put in daily work without receiving their just due from…get this… EVERYONE…AND GET THIS….THE BLACK MAN?


Why don’t black men-successful black men, use their platform to uplift black women and their accomplishments? Is that too much to ask? Who created the Black Lives Matter movement and for whom? Who created media outlets that catered to our culture? Who created stories for our little girls to know they are beautiful and worthy of love? Who can make a dollar out of .15 cents?

It seems as always, white women get a pass to speak their mind and still be considered beautiful and intelligent, while black women are consistently labeled as “angry black women”.

I am done.

But before I go-

Really Black Man?? Tell us how you really feel.


#SayHerName Deborah Danner

About 42.5 million American adults, which equates to about 18% of the population suffers from some type of mental illness including depression, schizophrenia, bi-polar diseases, among others. That is nearly 1 in 5 Americans…

NYPD killed another black woman with a mental illness on October 20, 2016. Her name….Deborah Danner.

That Tuesday night, Danner had been dealt with more than thirty years of schizophrenia. She was fighting with her family as she wanted to remove her sister, Jennifer, as her guardian. Her family nor her sister gave up on her. Danner was a bright individual who penned an essay entitled “Living with Schizophrenia” in 2012. According to Danner she felt “disappointed” by her sister and other kin and accused them of buying into the “stigma” surrounding mental illness. “Generally speaking, those who don’t suffer believe the worst of us who do,” she wrote. “We’re treated with suspicion as liars who can’t be trusted to control ourselves.” Old friends also abandoned her, she wrote. So did some of her relatives.

“I felt myself isolated and mostly alone…without their company or succor,” she wrote. “I was left to the tender mercies of a series of doctors and other mental health professionals.” Danner spoke about the need for more mental health training for police officers.

“We are all aware of the all too frequent news stories about the mentally ill who come up against law enforcement instead of mental health professionals and end up dead,” she wrote.

Eerily, this was her fate.

Officers went to her apartment around 6:00 p.m. after a neighbor called about an erratic acting woman. An officer encountered the woman who was wielding scissors, but he was able to persuade her to put it down. Danner, then reached for a bat attempting to hit the officer. An officer then fired two shots, hitting Danner in the torso where she later died after being taken to Jacobi Medical Center.

When will officer be properly trained on dealing with the mentally ill? When will society stop the stigma on people with mental illnesses? When will it end?

If you want to know more about Danner, you can google her. I am an advocate for mental illness and we need to revamp our guidelines pertaining to the mentally ill. They are not a threat to us, but we are a threat to them simply because we do not help them. We cast them away. Then they are gunned down as if they are murderers, rapists, and killers? SMH.

Say Her Name- Deborah Danner


No Charges! What’s New?

So, no charges???

Why does this not surprise me?

No Officers Charged in Korryn Gaines’ Case


I am here for Gabby!

“Twenty-four years ago I was raped at gunpoint in the cold, dark backroom of the Payless shoe store where I was then working. Two years ago I signed on to a brilliant script called “The Birth of a Nation,” to play a woman who was raped. One month ago I was sent a story about Nate Parker, the very talented writer, director and star of this film. Seventeen years ago Nate Parker was accused and acquitted of sexual assault. Four years ago the woman who accused him committed suicide.

Different roads circling one brutal, permeating stain on our society. A stain that is finely etched into my own history. Rape is a wound that throbs long after it heals. And for some of us the throbbing gets too loud. Post traumatic stress syndrome is very real and chips away at the soul and sanity of so many of us who have survived sexual violence.”

Gabrielle Union gave a powerful op-ed about rape and consent for the LA Times and I am so here for her speaking her truth and out loud for others to hear.

Nate Parker, who’s  highly anticipated film, A Birth of a Nation, will be released soon, was acquitted of rape in 1999. However, in an interview he brought up this event and the firestorm began. You can google it yourself to find out more.

I do not know if Mr. Parker is guilty or not…however, I know that women who have been sexually assaulted, killed, raped, or battered….need a voice.

Gabby has given her a voice! Read more below:

Korryn Gaines…Black Men Let us Down Again

I have had to process this for a few days before I write this blog.  Here I go…

I went through Twitter, Facebook, and even Instagram to see if anyone, especially our black men, would at least speak out for our beloved Korryn Gaines, who was killed on Monday August 4th.

Backstory: Officers went to the home to serve warrants on Gaines and her boyfriend, Kareem Kiean Courtney, 39, in separate cases. Gaines warrant was in regards to a traffic ticket. Korryn was shot and killed by police; her 5-year-old son was wounded after an hours-long standoff at her Maryland apartment. The incident became a flash point on social media as video taken by Gaines inside her home before the shooting was shared online. See some of the videos below:


When I say I could count on my hands how many times I saw positive responses towards this young black woman losing her life….I am not exaggerating! Now, let me put this into perspective…when any of our black men are shot and killed by police (no matter whether they had a criminal history or not), black women spoke up for you. Black women were on the forefront for you. Black women marched for you. Black women dealt with your negative history. Black women took up for you….NO MATTER WHAT! However, this young lady (who was known to record and report police behavior), has been dragged through the mud for speaking her mind, asserting her rights, and protecting herself and her family. Most of you backwards ass black men can’t protect your d*ck, so how can we depend on your to protect your sons and daughters?? You believe everything the media and the police tell you nowadays? Ok, so on Monday, the police stated in a press conference that the officers/SWAT team received a key to her apartment from the leasing staff. But as of today, police officers kicked the door in after retrieving the key? Also, there’s a video circulating of her at a traffic stop where to some of the people she was belligerent, however, it is her words that told me a different story. No one listened to her when she explained why her car did not have tags. She advised they (the police) stole them and left a note (remember, she is in the process of suing the police department and she is known for recording and documenting police violence against black men). You should listen to her words. Her tone was filled with the attitude of “enough is enough”. She was tired of our own being killed by police and nothing being done about it. Before you say what about black on black crime? When black on black crime happens, 90% of the time, justice is served and the murderer is captured, processed, tried and sent to prison. So, don’t try me today.

Apparently, someone was targeting her and she knew it.

***Contrary to the media…this video was taken a few months ago and not the day before she was killed.THIS WAS NOT THE REASON FOR HER BEING KILLED BY POLICE***

“Although Black women are routinely killed, raped, and beaten by the police, their experiences are rarely foregrounded in popular understandings of police brutality,” said Kimberlé Crenshaw, director of Columbia Law School’s Center for Intersectionality and Social Policy Studies, in her “Say Her Name” report dealing with black women killed by police in 2015. “Yet, inclusion of Black women’s experiences in social movements, media narratives, and policy demands around policing and police brutality is critical to effectively combating racialized state violence for Black communities and other communities of color.”

I could not have said it better myself!

Here’s her son explaining what happened. This is very sad and my prayers are to her family!

Her Instagram page is back up-

So, again…where is the outcry from our black brothers?? When will you fight for us like we fight for you?  I am sick of the bullsh*t today. DO NOT COME FOR KORRYN GAINES TODAY. Do not come for me or my black sisters today. I will not tolerate being downgraded by anyone else….especially my black men. You can google and read more about this but I warn you…do not believe everything that you read and hear.

#SayHerName #JourneyOfABlackWoman #KorrynGaines #DariaWrightAuthor #BlackWomenMatterToo