Korryn Gaines…Black Men Let us Down Again

I have had to process this for a few days before I write this blog.  Here I go…

I went through Twitter, Facebook, and even Instagram to see if anyone, especially our black men, would at least speak out for our beloved Korryn Gaines, who was killed on Monday August 4th.

Backstory: Officers went to the home to serve warrants on Gaines and her boyfriend, Kareem Kiean Courtney, 39, in separate cases. Gaines warrant was in regards to a traffic ticket. Korryn was shot and killed by police; her 5-year-old son was wounded after an hours-long standoff at her Maryland apartment. The incident became a flash point on social media as video taken by Gaines inside her home before the shooting was shared online. See some of the videos below:


When I say I could count on my hands how many times I saw positive responses towards this young black woman losing her life….I am not exaggerating! Now, let me put this into perspective…when any of our black men are shot and killed by police (no matter whether they had a criminal history or not), black women spoke up for you. Black women were on the forefront for you. Black women marched for you. Black women dealt with your negative history. Black women took up for you….NO MATTER WHAT! However, this young lady (who was known to record and report police behavior), has been dragged through the mud for speaking her mind, asserting her rights, and protecting herself and her family. Most of you backwards ass black men can’t protect your d*ck, so how can we depend on your to protect your sons and daughters?? You believe everything the media and the police tell you nowadays? Ok, so on Monday, the police stated in a press conference that the officers/SWAT team received a key to her apartment from the leasing staff. But as of today, police officers kicked the door in after retrieving the key? Also, there’s a video circulating of her at a traffic stop where to some of the people she was belligerent, however, it is her words that told me a different story. No one listened to her when she explained why her car did not have tags. She advised they (the police) stole them and left a note (remember, she is in the process of suing the police department and she is known for recording and documenting police violence against black men). You should listen to her words. Her tone was filled with the attitude of “enough is enough”. She was tired of our own being killed by police and nothing being done about it. Before you say what about black on black crime? When black on black crime happens, 90% of the time, justice is served and the murderer is captured, processed, tried and sent to prison. So, don’t try me today.

Apparently, someone was targeting her and she knew it.

***Contrary to the media…this video was taken a few months ago and not the day before she was killed.THIS WAS NOT THE REASON FOR HER BEING KILLED BY POLICE***

“Although Black women are routinely killed, raped, and beaten by the police, their experiences are rarely foregrounded in popular understandings of police brutality,” said Kimberlé Crenshaw, director of Columbia Law School’s Center for Intersectionality and Social Policy Studies, in her “Say Her Name” report dealing with black women killed by police in 2015. “Yet, inclusion of Black women’s experiences in social movements, media narratives, and policy demands around policing and police brutality is critical to effectively combating racialized state violence for Black communities and other communities of color.”

I could not have said it better myself!

Here’s her son explaining what happened. This is very sad and my prayers are to her family!

Her Instagram page is back up-https://www.instagram.com/shesyourmajesty/?hl=en

So, again…where is the outcry from our black brothers?? When will you fight for us like we fight for you?  I am sick of the bullsh*t today. DO NOT COME FOR KORRYN GAINES TODAY. Do not come for me or my black sisters today. I will not tolerate being downgraded by anyone else….especially my black men. You can google and read more about this but I warn you…do not believe everything that you read and hear.

#SayHerName #JourneyOfABlackWoman #KorrynGaines #DariaWrightAuthor #BlackWomenMatterToo

We is Smart…But we make less.

Words taken from the movie, “The Help”….You is smart, you is kind, you is important.

Not only are we, as black women, beautiful…curvaceous (some of us), captivating, intelligent…Wait, yes! We are now the most educated group in the United States.

The National Center for Education Statistics has confirmed that from 2009-2010, black women earned almost 70% of all Associate’s degrees, 66% of Bachelor’s degrees, and a whopping 77% of Master’s degrees and 65% of doctorates. The report also stated that the percentage of U.S. college students who are black increased from 10 to 15% from 1976 to 2012, while the percentage of white students among all U.S. college students fell from 84 to 60%. But, keep reading and see how this is not adding up.

Unfortunately, black women may be the most highly educated, but a recent study found that black women make up 8% of private sector jobs and less than 2% of leadership roles. That tells me that not only are we being overlooked for positions, but we are being overlooked to properly take care of our families while others are purposely being promoted without the credentials that most of our black women have obtained.

Black women earn 0.64 cents to the white man’s $1, but our counterparts, white women, earn 0.78 cents, plus our brothers earn 0.74. Where does that leave us, if everyone else is making more money? How are we to take care of our families?

Tell me your thoughts… #JourneyOfABlackWoman


The Black Woman

I started a journey on my twitter account (my genuine name) about my adventure as a black woman in our 21st century society. I needed to think back over this in 20 years or so to check whether advancement will ever be made with regards to Black Women. I typically don’t permit my personal life and professional life to concur, however I feel this is totally vital to my hashtag #JourneyOfABlackWoman. (You can find my account by searching the hashtag).

After watching Beyonce’s “Lemonade”, I loved the raw, vulnerability, sex appeal, beautiful, courageous spirit the visual album expounded upon. I hear words so profound that I needed to see the video and I found it.

Take a look at the words Malcom X spoke about black women.

Its a shame that those words are still relevant almost forty years later.


Say Her Name….Gynnya McMillen

macmillen30n-1A beautiful child.

Aikido restraint is a Japanese form of self

defense utilizing wrist, joint, and elbow grips toimmobilize or throw one’s opponent.

Watch below for demonstration:

16 year old Gynnya McMillen was restrained after she refused to remove a sweatshirt she was wearing in order to be searched at Lincoln Village Juvenile Detention Center. According to reports, an Aikido restraint was performed by staff in order to safely conduct a pat-down search to remove the hoodie. “The purpose of having multiple staff involved in a controlled restraint is to ensure the safety of the youth and staff”, per Stacy Floden, the center’s spokesperson. The detention officer has since been removed from his position. The officer was employed with the detention center for ten years.

January 11, 2016, Gynnya was found unresponsive in this cell after spending the night alone. She was without a cellmate during that time. She was found at 9:55 a.m. after not responding to receiving breakfast at 6:30 a.m. and again at 8:30 a.m. (So, no one thought this was strange?). Her mother also called and she did not respond (Ok, this is a sure tell sign that something was immediately wrong). Yes, she was in a detention center but that does not mean she was a bad child. She was in unfortunate situations during her short life. Gynnya was living in Maryhurst, a child welfare agency but was going to counseling. Her father, with whom she was staying, passed away in 2014. This prompted the process of being placed with her mother. However, this relationship was very volatile with very successful counseling sessions and progressions (there is a 911 call from her mother that prompted her removal to the detention center. It is very disturbing to hear a mother speak in that manner).

After all is said and done….she is now dead. And two months later, still no answers.

There’s so many unanswered questions that I wonder when will we begin to protect our young black women? I understand in times, life throws you for a loop, but for a child….this is unacceptable. Our youth need guidance and understanding. Most times a child is reaching out for attention because of the lack of affection, love, or just a hug. At other times, a child is only showing a learned behavior. I cannot continue to write this as she is my daughter’s age.

Something has to give. Who is going to Protect them? Who will be there for our girls to show them there is a better way? How can we tell our youth hey matter when they do not matter to anyone?

I am done.

#ProtectMe #PleaseProtectMe #ProtectMeProject


Let me say that I am not a Beyoncé’ fan. She is a very talented entertainer with a great following that knows how to create her own story. With that being said-

When I first heard that she had a new single out called “Formation”. I must admit I was intrigued. The video was definitely a tribute to the black southern atmosphere that we know all too well. Black women…front and center. Black woman…with the Men in Black dressed nicely while standing on the plantation house steps basking in the freedom they worked hard to get. Black women…sitting in white showing class and feminine gestures. The message sprawled on the wall “Stop Shooting Us”….

And….she had a mirage of black women, in black dancing with her…with afros!! I love it!

I could go on and on…but I will let you watch the video for yourself. Oh, yea…the reference to the #BLACKLIVESMATTER movement was pure genius. Plus, I saw the reference to the Black Panther party movement!

I slay….you slay….WE SLAY! Black women…. WE SLAY!!!

Proud to be Black…African American!

We will get in formation! We will get into a discussion later on this subject! Enjoy some of the pics from last night at Superbowl 50, where she performed Formation!

As for the video….you have to find it yourself!!

CaqMmA6UcAIW42J Beyonce at Supwerbowl 50

Feb 7, 2016; Santa Clara, CA, USA; Recording artist Beyonce performs during halftime in Super Bowl 50 at Levi's Stadium. Mandatory Credit: Matthew Emmons-USA TODAY Sports - RTX25WFM

Feb 7, 2016; Santa Clara, CA, USA; Recording artist Beyonce performs during halftime in Super Bowl 50 at Levi’s Stadium. Mandatory Credit: Matthew Emmons-USA TODAY Sports – RTX25WFM



Say Her Name: NeShante Davis

Mother & Daughter, Davis/Green

Neshante Davis and her daughter, 2 year old Chloe Nicole Davis-Green, were both killed this past Tuesday morning. This event happened in Fort Washington, MD.  A mother and her daughter, a toddler, were killed is an insane crime. What also makes this crime so horrendous is the person who admitted to carrying out the crime is the father of the 2 year old girl. Daron Boswell-Johnson, 25 was arrested and charged on Tuesday with a double-murder.

Boswell-Johnson killed the mother of his child and his daughter because he was ordered by a judge to begin payments of $600 per month of child support last December.

He approached Davis, demanding that she drop the order form the courts. Neighbors contest that they heard some arguing before three shots were fired.

You shot your daughter? You shot your 2 year old daughter? A child who has done nothing and did not ask to come into this world. You made your bed-so take care of the child. You shot the child’s mother? Why? Because she asked for support? Davis was a school teacher at Bradbury Heights Elementary School, where this misfortune has taken a toll on the students, parents and colleagues who knew her.

Back to Boswell-Johnson-

I do not know this man but to kill your own child is a sadistic thing to do. Here we have two African American females, whose lives were taken by a senseless act. The lives of black women and black girls are becoming non-existent…even to the men that were created to take care of us and cherish us.

My condolences to everyone involved in this heartbreaking, senseless, gruesome, and ever painful incident.

So, tell me…when do BLACK LIVES MATTERS to black people????




Janese Talton-Jackson uttered this last word that would cost her the life she had.

No. No. No.

Yes, Janese uttered the simple two-letter word to 41 year old Charles McKinney and because of this….he shot and killed her. What did she do to deserve this treatment? Did she berate him? Did she belittle him?

No, she simply told the man, “No”.

She said no as in, I do not want to adhere to your advances towards me.

She said no, as in, thank you for calling me beautiful, but I am not interested in you at this time.

She said no, as in, I do not want to take your number.

As she left the bar, McKinney followed her out and shot her in the chest at close point range.

He did not take into account, that Janese was a mother to three children, twin girls and a 1-year old son. She was a sister, a daughter, a friend. Most importantly, she was someone, a black woman, that did not deserve to be killed becasue she refused a man’s advances. She was 29 years old.

The blatant disregard for black women has risen to a new high. This is not the first time a black woman was killed for refuting the advances of another. Mary Spears, of Detroit, was killed in 2014 when she refuted a man’s advances during a Detroit event at American Legion Joe Louis Post No. 375. Spears was approached by a man and she advised him she was already in a relationship with someone (her fiance’ was attending the same event). He continued to harass her to which security had to be called. Once he was secured outside the venue, he pulled a gun and shot her and several others.

How do we deal with the increasing anger towards our black women? I am frustrated over the lack of empathy and sympathy towards us. Now, I see, black men feel entitled to our phone numbers to call us and they especially feel entitled to our bodies and souls. Now, we have men so incompetent that you cannot stand rejection so you kill someone? a woman? She rejected your advances and, men, you can control how you respond to her rejection. The world is a dangerous place for women, especially black women and girls. see, I had these epiphany a long time ago that I would need  to get my daughter prepared to deal with foolish men and PUAs….pick up artists. Black women are targeted  and considered easy prey….becasue we are told time and time again, we do not matter.

Yes, those men that feel the need to have any and every woman known to man. I have seen and heard stories of women being approached and scared to refute someone’s advances becasue they do not know if they will be spat on, pulled to ground, or called a bitch (I have had all of this happen to me).

Male entitlement killed these women…and something has to be done about it. MEN, BLACK MEN, teach your sons how to be respectful and if a girl/woman says no….move on.

I am sad and disappointed at this point so I must stop writing. Chime in and let me know your thoughts.